Then he asked me why I accepted his request after all of this time, and the truth is that I needed to. I needed to forgive him not for his sake but for my own. I needed to forgive myself for all the time I wasted being angry. I needed to talk to him again to see that he wasn't the devil, but just some guy with just as much damage and confusion in his life as we all have. I had to take my power back.
Enough is where life sucks. Enough is where everything becomes monotonous. This is where most people, especially women, feel guilty for wanting more. We have been trained to give to others, to be happy with what we get, to not complain, and don't get me wrong, being grateful for the little things is a powerful tool... to help you create MORE. Because that's the real goal in life.
I know that we, as human beings, can feel that jealousy and vengeance is the normal.. and it is.. but it's not helpful or healthy. It just keeps us reliving those negative feelings and digging ourselves deeper into a hole we may never escape. So the next time you feel hurt or slighted, don't react.. just act.. like the person that you want to be.
When I think of empowerment I do not think of all the ways that we are better than someone else. I do not think of all the things that we can and should be doing to bring down another person or group. I think of ways that we should raise ourselves and each other up. We do not need to steps on the heads of our perceived enemies in order to rise, we just need to give each other a hand or a leg up.
So as important as the afterlife is to most of us, the only life we actually have control over right now is the one that we are currently living. How do you want to spend your days? Do you want to do, see, and accomplish as much as you can? Do you want to love, learn, and experience all of the wonders that this life has? Or do you want to blame, ridicule, and waste the little time that you do have to be the person you always dreamed you could be?
#metoo is not a movement for just women. It is a movement for creating a dialog about what is and isn't appropriate in a society that has deemed casual sex to be the norm and the swiping of a profile picture as an invitation to intercourse.
So.. I hope this helps clear up any confusion that you may have as a parent. I know I love all the "expert" opinions that I have received over the years. If you can think of anything that I haven't put on the list, by all means be sure to share in the comments.
"A truth is telling something that was done or someone said. Just because you think someone's ugly doesn't make it true."
Don't get me wrong. People need a support group. They need their tribe and their social interactions.. They need to be and feel loved and wanted. They just need to feel it from themselves first. We need to get back to the innocence. We have to remember what it was like to be our own best friend. We have to remember what it was like to love ourselves and think ourselves enough. If we can't be happy with ourselves, we'll never be able to be happy with someone else.
The craziest part of the whole thing is that we are not actually a minority. We make up up more than 50% of the population. There is no reason for this. We are the ones who raise the future generation. We are the ones that teach boys and men how to treat others. How is this the norm? Well, sadly we tend to think of ourselves as competition instead of being each other's biggest champions.