One of the biggest complaints in marriages that lead to divorce is that one or both parties feel taken for granted or like the spark is just gone from their relationship. All-in-all they just don't feel loved. Now imagine that you're in that relationship in which you feel taken for granted and your loved one says, "I don't need to be told to love my wife". Maybe you do. Maybe everyone needs a reminder that they are loved and appreciated. Days go by quickly; then weeks; then months. The next thing you know it's been a year and you haven't had a date night. You haven't had alone time. You haven't really been "loving" each other.
Women used to be proud of who and what they were. They were daughters, and moms, and teachers, and nurses and they loved using their empathy and compassion to take care of people. They were also brilliant. There were so few female writers, scientists, pilots, freedom fighters and yet everyone knows the names of the brilliant women who did accomplish great things in those fields. Being a woman didn't stop Agatha Christie, Marie Curie, Amelia Earhart or Harriet Tubman. They didn't have to pretend to be men. They didn't have to dress, and act like men or sue for men to include them. They did their jobs better than everyone else and they were accepted and appreciated for that.
After we finished reading and watching a video about them, I asked the children in my class how they felt about what these people did. I asked them if they thought that people have the right to be able to tell their King or government no and do what they believe. I wasn't sure how they would answer.
I see it on social media a lot. A meme that goes something like, "You taught me everything except how to live without you, mom". I get the idea. I have lost my parents. My son has lost his father. There has been a lot of loss in my life. I miss them every day, but statements like that actually make of my father. Not in the way that you would expect. In fact, the opposite.
When questioned about their ideas they just spew lies about the inquisitor. Anyone who questions their doctrine is evil. They are racist, sexist, Nazis... When you question their followers with facts to back it up, they just reply in kind... you're a racist, sexist, Nazi... nothing in your actions speaks to any of this. Nothing in the conversation had anything to do with this, but the authoritarian can't keep power unless they keep the fear alive.
We as a society used to understand that kids shouldn't go into a rate R movie, never mind rated X, and yet somewhere along the line people stopped understanding this. It changed to, "oh, they can see worse on the internet... who cares?". Well, I for one care. Many people care. Many people SHOULD care.
The problem is no one can stop death. The more we try the worse it gets. People are becoming obsessed with death. With Covid death specifically. People have locked themselves in their house. They refuse to see family and friends. They won't work. They won't go outside in the fresh air for fear it may be contaminated.
Lately people have been very divided on many issues. So divided that they are not even willing to listen to the other side. Anyone who disagrees with them is just labeled either stupid or evil. The problem is that everything in life has many parts, and many layers, and no one is always right, and no one is always wrong. The best way to get to the truth is to talk with people whom you disagree and actually listen to the other side. No one wants to do this anymore.
Boys are boys. They roughhouse, they break things in their attempts to try something new, they dig at each other, they even fight... they are way more active than girls and have a hard time sitting still. Boys will be boys because boys are boys.
In one camp there are the people who will never forgive. "Those *fill in expletive* don't deserve my forgiveness", people. The ones who every time a name is mentioned, even if it's not the actual person, just the name in common, this one gets a knot in their stomach. This one has been hurt so badly they will never forget, and never give anyone else a chance to hurt them like that either. They will take that pain to the grave, and to whatever afterlife may come.