You're the only person you have to live with the rest of your life
It's a quote from one of my old favorite shows, "Doctor Who". Well, before it went stupid in the last few years. I had seen this episode before I had my son and thought it cute. Watching it now, as a mom of a son... it is so true. There’s no act of love more… Continue reading There isn’t a little boy born who wouldn’t tear the world apart to save his mummy
Everyday on social media there are posts, especially from women about how they aren't going to succumb to the old patriarchal regime of being a mom and putting their needs on the backburner for someone else. They aren't going to give up their girls night out and their shoe collection for some crying, drooling brat, as if A. kids have no worth in and of themselves more than shoes, and B. Kids never grow out of the infant stage and won't be there to take care of their parents' crying, drooling asses one day.
I didn't judge people who were religious. In fact my dad used to encourage me to check out different religions and see if any of them fit. I understood that my problems with religion itself had more to do with my mother and her psychosis than the religion itself, but for a long time people who talked about Jesus really freaked me out. When it was time to baptize my son I knew that I wanted him to be Catholic like my grandmother, who had passed away at that point. I had been baptized myself as a baby, but never any other formal religious teaching.
School Choice, real School Choice is about getting the government out of the decisions made about the schools. It's about a family deciding that the government school is garbage and they want to take the tax dollars attached to the child and putting it towards whichever kind of education the family chooses. Maybe it's a different town, maybe it's a private or Charter school, maybe it's a religious school, or maybe it's homeschooling. The government doesn't get a say in the education of the children just because they collect the money from the tax payers.
Telling someone that they can do everything is similar to telling a child that they can have everything that they want in a store. Say you have $300 and you take a child to Target. You can tell them that they can have anything that they want, they just have to choose. Maybe they pick a giant Lego set, and have $100 left to spend and you tell them, "oh that's great, why don't you add a book and a game on top of that". You leave the store and the child is ecstatic.
Women used to be proud of who and what they were. They were daughters, and moms, and teachers, and nurses and they loved using their empathy and compassion to take care of people. They were also brilliant. There were so few female writers, scientists, pilots, freedom fighters and yet everyone knows the names of the brilliant women who did accomplish great things in those fields. Being a woman didn't stop Agatha Christie, Marie Curie, Amelia Earhart or Harriet Tubman. They didn't have to pretend to be men. They didn't have to dress, and act like men or sue for men to include them. They did their jobs better than everyone else and they were accepted and appreciated for that.
I see it on social media a lot. A meme that goes something like, "You taught me everything except how to live without you, mom". I get the idea. I have lost my parents. My son has lost his father. There has been a lot of loss in my life. I miss them every day, but statements like that actually make of my father. Not in the way that you would expect. In fact, the opposite.
We as a society used to understand that kids shouldn't go into a rate R movie, never mind rated X, and yet somewhere along the line people stopped understanding this. It changed to, "oh, they can see worse on the internet... who cares?". Well, I for one care. Many people care. Many people SHOULD care.
Boys are boys. They roughhouse, they break things in their attempts to try something new, they dig at each other, they even fight... they are way more active than girls and have a hard time sitting still. Boys will be boys because boys are boys.
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