It's a scary thing to realize though. No one wants to "be a loser". They don't want to think that had THEY done something differently that the outcome may have been better. They want to blame someone else for their misfortune. Much better to be a victim, than to be a loser, and let's face it, the angry chemicals are way more fun than the depressive ones, and a lot less complicated than doing the work.
I can only assume that people who post these kinds of memes don't really understand human relations. The "you don't deserve me at my best" is even worse. I've known some people at their worst.. and they are the worst. Why on Earth would someone feel that they have every right to be horrible human beings and treat other's badly, but if the person they're treating badly doesn't like it then they're the problem. The quote should be, "If you can't handle me at my worst, I wouldn't blame you if you didn't want me at my best either".
I remember at lunch all the tween girls were braiding each other's hair and one of them came over and asked if she could touch mine. I have VERY straight.. Very blonde.. Very silky hair. She had never seen anything like it before. Her friends all chimed in saying that she couldn't ask that. They said how rude she was. I smiled and told her "of course you can.. you'll never learn about anything new if you can't experience it.". The rest of the girls were so excited and they all wanted to take turns brushing and braiding my hair. I didn't think it weird that they were interested in learning something new. I found it weird that they had never known a white girl who's hair they could touch. I'd known plenty of people of color in my life in a small town and we all played with each other's hair.
What is he going to learn from all of this? What do I tell him when he asks why he's so bad because of the body he was born into,
For those who don't know there is great debate in the scientific community about whether or not free will is possible. The theory is that time is a relative construct. Therefore everything that has ever happened or ever will happen is happening all at once and time is just how we are experiencing these events. T
This was Da's first birthday since his death day.. which I have no idea how I'm going to deal with.. but I still felt like the day should be observed. I still felt like my son should have the opportunity to celebrate the life that his Da had. No matter how sadly it ended.
Positive thinking is about not giving up in the face of adversity. It's about seeing the bad things and holding on to hope.... it's about wanting better for the future no matter how dire things look today.
People talk about grief, but until you live through it you will never understand. For weeks I couldn't eat. I couldn't sleep. I cried without even realizing. There is about 6 months of my life that I don't remember. I carried on. I had to. I had my job. I had my son. I had my life that I had to live. My father died 5 years ago today, and I miss him every bit as much now as I did then.
Now I read this article about Sesame Street talking to millions of kids about their parents. Millions of kids whose mommies and daddies have to stay sober using nothing but will power. My son is not the only kid I know whose parent has died from the crisis.. my son is not the only kid I know that needed a monitor to make sure he was safe when his Da was using.
Then he told me, "I wish I wasn't smart". I was completely taken aback. I had no idea what he was talking about. He said that he was so tired and so angry all the time. That he didn't want to do any of his work because of it. That if he wasn't smart that no one would care if he did his work or not and they would just leave him alone.