Everyday on social media there are posts, especially from women about how they aren't going to succumb to the old patriarchal regime of being a mom and putting their needs on the backburner for someone else. They aren't going to give up their girls night out and their shoe collection for some crying, drooling brat, as if A. kids have no worth in and of themselves more than shoes, and B. Kids never grow out of the infant stage and won't be there to take care of their parents' crying, drooling asses one day.
Category: Addiction
We need to talk about men and mental health
In the US men make up 75% of all suicides, while in Europe it is more like 80%. However men are half as likely to seek mental health treatment than women. These statistics are obviously correlated, but why is a bigger question. Are men not seeking treatment and therefore just deciding to kill themselves? Are men seeking treatment but being told by both society and more than likely the feminist psychologist who they seek treatment from that their problems don't really matter because they are some sort of oppressive class that needs to apologize for how they treat everyone else? Are they just diagnosed and handed a bottle full of pills and told that will make them feel better? If that's the case men are also dying from drug overdoses 2-3 times more than women. This may be the reason why almost twice as many men are homeless compared to women.
No one can do everything, and we need to stop telling people that they can.
Telling someone that they can do everything is similar to telling a child that they can have everything that they want in a store. Say you have $300 and you take a child to Target. You can tell them that they can have anything that they want, they just have to choose. Maybe they pick a giant Lego set, and have $100 left to spend and you tell them, "oh that's great, why don't you add a book and a game on top of that". You leave the store and the child is ecstatic.
The Love of Money is the Root of all Evil
I don't tell this story just to brag about my amazingly perfect son. I tell this story as a reminder to those who may be struggling with money issues or have a spouse who is. Some people are just born with a different idea of money that you are. This does not give them a free pass to spend until bankrupt, but it's just something that may take more work than you may think. It's literally a part of them. They have to decide to make a change and learn how to do so. Excessive shopping can be considered an addiction, just like anything else done to access, but it can also just be bad habits.
Death Happens
The problem is no one can stop death. The more we try the worse it gets. People are becoming obsessed with death. With Covid death specifically. People have locked themselves in their house. They refuse to see family and friends. They won't work. They won't go outside in the fresh air for fear it may be contaminated.
Nihilism is killing people
Yet every generation becomes more and more depressed. More and more dependent on drugs and alcohol. More and more suicidal. All anyone ever does anymore is complain about how miserable they are. How lonely they are. How broken they are. But when you suggest that maybe that is because they have nothing to believe in or goals to accomplish, or real relationships to depend on they just respond with something about the patriarchy and "ok Boomer".
Trauma… the badge of honor
I don't see trauma in that way. I certainly don't see bad things that happen to me as a reflection of me at all. I didn't cause my parents to divorce, or my brother to leave, or my son's father to do drugs, or my parents to die. These are things that other people have done that affect me but does in no way embody me. I am who I am despite all of these things happening around me and to me. I am who I am because of all of the things that happen around me and to me. It doesn't do anyone any good to create a persona of trauma and hold onto it so tightly that it drowns you.
Just because you can laugh doesn’t mean you should
The one thing that I don't understand is how people use the laugh button. I mean it's really very sick. Especially with all the Covid information going about. I've read posts about people who have been locked down losing their homes, or their kids committing suicide, or businesses burned down during the BLM riots last year.... and the response is someone laughing. Laughing at kids committing suicide because they believe that none of that matters as long as we prevent Covid from spreading.
Anger: The drug of choice
It's a scary thing to realize though. No one wants to "be a loser". They don't want to think that had THEY done something differently that the outcome may have been better. They want to blame someone else for their misfortune. Much better to be a victim, than to be a loser, and let's face it, the angry chemicals are way more fun than the depressive ones, and a lot less complicated than doing the work.
The world is on fire… and what do I tell my son?
What is he going to learn from all of this? What do I tell him when he asks why he's so bad because of the body he was born into,