Habits are really hard to break. It doesn't matter how many tricks you read about, it doesn't matter if there's a "change your habits in 28 days... or your money back". You may as well ask for the money back now, because habits are hard to break. Now, that is not to say that they are impossible and you're stuck with it forever.. but it's going to take work.
It's been about a decade since that movie "The Bucket List" came out and people started to contemplate what they want to do before they die. The problem that I have always had with that is that people think they have forever. They think that they'll be 90+ and have decades to make up for the time that they're wasting now. But we don't.. this is our life.. every day.. every minute. We don't get it back. What do you want to do.. not before you die.. what do you want to do with your life?
She said that she had to be ready to die to create a new life for herself. Now I remember thinking this long ago when I thought about those who were suicidal and how the thought of feeling so desperate that they had to die instead of just leaving everything behind and starting anew, and that's basically what she was saying. She wasn't suicidal, but she had to be ready to let go of her entire past, her world, her friends, and even her identity to become the person that she dreamed of being.
I don't know how we make things happen. I don't know if it's random change.. a God of your choice.. or we're living in the Matrix, but when I look around this world I see the most amazing things.. some of them natural, some of them "man made" but all of them created out of nothing but possibility and patience. If you know.. I mean really know what you want in life.. then you also know how to get it.. you just have to be willing to do the work.
We, as humans, are completely controlled by how brains and our nervous system. Our feelings are just a consequence of glands secreting substances and our neurons firing. If we need to feel happy we need chemicals in our system like Dopamine, Oxytocin, Serotonin and Endorphins.. so we take artificial ones to trick our brain into being happy.. but our bodies can actually make those chemicals themselves in simple ways. We can think about something happy and we automatically smile and feel better. We can hug someone we love. We can even listen to music.