Positive thinking is about not giving up in the face of adversity. It's about seeing the bad things and holding on to hope.... it's about wanting better for the future no matter how dire things look today.
She said that she had to be ready to die to create a new life for herself. Now I remember thinking this long ago when I thought about those who were suicidal and how the thought of feeling so desperate that they had to die instead of just leaving everything behind and starting anew, and that's basically what she was saying. She wasn't suicidal, but she had to be ready to let go of her entire past, her world, her friends, and even her identity to become the person that she dreamed of being.
I don't know how we make things happen. I don't know if it's random change.. a God of your choice.. or we're living in the Matrix, but when I look around this world I see the most amazing things.. some of them natural, some of them "man made" but all of them created out of nothing but possibility and patience. If you know.. I mean really know what you want in life.. then you also know how to get it.. you just have to be willing to do the work.
If you want to be healthy.. you have to BE HEALTHY. If you want to be rich, you have to do the work.. you have to find your niche, you have to take a chance. If you want a fabulous relationship.. you have to let go of the old ones. You can't change other people.. and you can't change your life without... CHANGING YOUR LIFE.
Those who are successful already tell themselves these things. They already believe it. I use the example, say someone hands you a puzzle, one of those brain teasing 3 dimensional puzzles, and says, "I think it has all the pieces". You may spend some time trying to put it together and if it gets too difficult you may say, "It must be missing some pieces.. this isn't working", but if they tell you that all the pieces are there you will be more willing to put in the extra effort because you know that it is solvable. Then there are others that will keep trying till it works regardless. If you are sure that you can do something you are more likely to accomplish your goal.
If you are on your path to a healthier you. Whether it's weight-loss, substance abuse, or even getting a better job, be careful of your peers. Be careful of those who seem to always lead you down the path of the dark side... with those cookies. You know the voices that you hear in your head that say it's ok... you can just have one... well, they are hard enough to ignore. When you hear them from those who love you it's even more challenging.
It has been proven that our thoughts create chemical reactions in our brain. If we think thoughts that stress us out our glands secrete cortisol... also known as the "fight or flight" hormone. If we think sad, depressing thoughts that stress us out our hormone levels spike and we physically feel all of the symptoms that correlate.