I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work.
You are your habits.
Habits are really hard to break. It doesn't matter how many tricks you read about, it doesn't matter if there's a "change your habits in 28 days... or your money back". You may as well ask for the money back now, because habits are hard to break. Now, that is not to say that they are impossible and you're stuck with it forever.. but it's going to take work.
What would you do if you could do anything?
It's been about a decade since that movie "The Bucket List" came out and people started to contemplate what they want to do before they die. The problem that I have always had with that is that people think they have forever. They think that they'll be 90+ and have decades to make up for the time that they're wasting now. But we don't.. this is our life.. every day.. every minute. We don't get it back. What do you want to do.. not before you die.. what do you want to do with your life?
Sometimes you have to be willing to die in order to really live
She said that she had to be ready to die to create a new life for herself. Now I remember thinking this long ago when I thought about those who were suicidal and how the thought of feeling so desperate that they had to die instead of just leaving everything behind and starting anew, and that's basically what she was saying. She wasn't suicidal, but she had to be ready to let go of her entire past, her world, her friends, and even her identity to become the person that she dreamed of being.
What can you imagine?
I don't know how we make things happen. I don't know if it's random change.. a God of your choice.. or we're living in the Matrix, but when I look around this world I see the most amazing things.. some of them natural, some of them "man made" but all of them created out of nothing but possibility and patience. If you know.. I mean really know what you want in life.. then you also know how to get it.. you just have to be willing to do the work.
If what you think you become.. what would be your theme song?
We, as humans, are completely controlled by how brains and our nervous system. Our feelings are just a consequence of glands secreting substances and our neurons firing. If we need to feel happy we need chemicals in our system like Dopamine, Oxytocin, Serotonin and Endorphins.. so we take artificial ones to trick our brain into being happy.. but our bodies can actually make those chemicals themselves in simple ways. We can think about something happy and we automatically smile and feel better. We can hug someone we love. We can even listen to music.
Are you happy?
If someone were to ask you if you were happy what would your response be? Would you laugh? Would you say "of course"... would you list all the reasons why you're not happy now, but plan to be happy in the future? Will you be happy after you get a new job, or get married, or have children, or finish your degree, or lose weight? What is it that you NEED in order to "get" happy?
Try something new…. anything!
If you want to be healthy.. you have to BE HEALTHY. If you want to be rich, you have to do the work.. you have to find your niche, you have to take a chance. If you want a fabulous relationship.. you have to let go of the old ones. You can't change other people.. and you can't change your life without... CHANGING YOUR LIFE.
What you believe becomes your reality
Those who are successful already tell themselves these things. They already believe it. I use the example, say someone hands you a puzzle, one of those brain teasing 3 dimensional puzzles, and says, "I think it has all the pieces". You may spend some time trying to put it together and if it gets too difficult you may say, "It must be missing some pieces.. this isn't working", but if they tell you that all the pieces are there you will be more willing to put in the extra effort because you know that it is solvable. Then there are others that will keep trying till it works regardless. If you are sure that you can do something you are more likely to accomplish your goal.
Friends are not always the most encouraging when it’s time for a change.
If you are on your path to a healthier you. Whether it's weight-loss, substance abuse, or even getting a better job, be careful of your peers. Be careful of those who seem to always lead you down the path of the dark side... with those cookies. You know the voices that you hear in your head that say it's ok... you can just have one... well, they are hard enough to ignore. When you hear them from those who love you it's even more challenging.