I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work.
If you want to be healthy.. you have to BE HEALTHY. If you want to be rich, you have to do the work.. you have to find your niche, you have to take a chance. If you want a fabulous relationship.. you have to let go of the old ones. You can't change other people.. and you can't change your life without... CHANGING YOUR LIFE.
Those who are successful already tell themselves these things. They already believe it. I use the example, say someone hands you a puzzle, one of those brain teasing 3 dimensional puzzles, and says, "I think it has all the pieces". You may spend some time trying to put it together and if it gets too difficult you may say, "It must be missing some pieces.. this isn't working", but if they tell you that all the pieces are there you will be more willing to put in the extra effort because you know that it is solvable. Then there are others that will keep trying till it works regardless. If you are sure that you can do something you are more likely to accomplish your goal.
If you are on your path to a healthier you. Whether it's weight-loss, substance abuse, or even getting a better job, be careful of your peers. Be careful of those who seem to always lead you down the path of the dark side... with those cookies. You know the voices that you hear in your head that say it's ok... you can just have one... well, they are hard enough to ignore. When you hear them from those who love you it's even more challenging.
It has been proven that our thoughts create chemical reactions in our brain. If we think thoughts that stress us out our glands secrete cortisol... also known as the "fight or flight" hormone. If we think sad, depressing thoughts that stress us out our hormone levels spike and we physically feel all of the symptoms that correlate.
Now, I don't KNOW that's true. I don't KNOW that my father isn't just the pile of ashes in the urn on my piano and that's all that's left... but I do know.. that doesn't comfort me, and it doesn't comfort my 4 year old.... and doesn't hurt anyone to for us to believe that Papa is watching and proud of us.
I don't know where he learned this, but I want to make sure that my son doesn't pick up this habit. I want my son to apologize for things he's really sorry for, not just pay lip service. I want my son to feel comfortable in his own skin and with his own actions. I want my son to look forward to people's news. I want "Guess what?" to be a question of excitement not dread. It's important to teach empathy and awareness.. it's something else to create anxiety and guilt.. or a fear of being wrong just for being oneself.
Some people feel as though prayer is a waste of time, but any positive energy sent to those in pain is a good thing. Even if you don't believe in the power of vibration.. the law of attraction.. or the power of prayer, I imagine you must understand how it feels to see that others are thinking of you and hoping for your well-being.
A lot of people talk about positive thinking... but you can't just tell yourself "I'm fit" or "I'm not an addict" and expect that to change your life. You have to retrain your brain. You have to picture yourself fit.. you have to picture all the new habits that you need to develop to become that person. You have to retrain your brain into thinking of yourself as the person who works out regularly.. that chooses fresh fruits, veggies, and lean proteins.. instead of the person who thinks of themselves as sitting on the couch eating pizza.
Yet in real life it's the same. We grow up on these movies. Being taught that we have the power to create the life we want, yet we are always turning to someone else. We need someone to give us a job. We need someone to love us, to marry us. We need someone or something to create our worth and our destiny. Can't we, as a society, finally realize that if we want the life we desire... we need to decide.. and do it ourselves.